Spiritual Practice

topic posted Wed, June 27, 2007 - 6:42 AM by  Fairy
So, if you have a spiritual practice or faith, how do you share this with your kids without 'teaching' it to them? If you feel a great peace in your faith, how do you communicate this to your children?
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Fairy
California
  • Re: Spiritual Practice

    Wed, June 27, 2007 - 6:53 AM
    Just living your life. That is the only real way to impart faith or morals that I know of. Sometimes my kids ask me why I do things and I tell them. They learn and have chosen to share the same morals and developed faith of their own. I think "teaching" such things is impossible anyway. People who have superficial beliefs and don't walk out the morals they claim will only have children who resent being put into that spiritual box and will probably run as far and as fast as they can from whatever the beliefs are as soon as they are able.
    • Re: Spiritual Practice

      Wed, June 27, 2007 - 10:15 PM
      here here! or is it hear hear! or heer heer!

      in any case, I agree. Live you life with integrity and they will see that, Lack integrity and they will also see it. They are their own being and will come to their own conclusions.
  • Rae
    Rae
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    Re: Spiritual Practice

    Thu, June 28, 2007 - 5:29 AM
    I agree...

    There is NOTHING more powerful than a living breathing example.

    Our actions are what our children will learn from much more than our words.
    • Re: Spiritual Practice

      Thu, October 25, 2007 - 2:50 PM
      yes, so true!
      Children absolutely do what we do:-)

      I also feel interested in finding conscious ways
      to cultivate spiritual health for myself and my children.
      Ways I can explain and teach deep well being.

      I recently went to a workshop (Buddhist type)
      about this so have been thinking a lot about it:-)

      The 5 areas of spiritual wellbeing that the speaker talked about were:
      * Meaning: understanding the significance of life: making sense of situations, and deriving purpose.
      * Values: constructing beliefs, standards, and ethics
      * Transcendence: exploration and discovery of a dimension beyond one's own current experience
      * inter-connectedness: increased awareness of a connection with one's self, others, nature and the divine
      * unfolding of learning: learning from ones own experience, both while it happens and afterwards, and sustaining the ability to "not know

      So one thing they can see me do is spend time talking to them, playing with them, and thinking about these things with them:-)

      She had lots of great worksheets to do with kids.
      It was beautiful stuff!
      • Re: Spiritual Practice

        Thu, October 25, 2007 - 11:53 PM
        i grew up Unitarian Universalist, in small new england towns, and felt fortunate having a spiritual community around me that encourageed me to explore my own beliefs and theories. especially as a teenager, by which point we had moved to an even smaller town, and i no longer attended church (didn't like it as much), only youth conferences
        i still have many friends i've made through the UU web

        and i always thought i'd like to find a UU church once i had kids, even tho wehre we currently live is much more diverse than where i grew up...
        we tried going to the berkeley fellowship a few weeks ago, but eamon was the only kid!, everyone was over 40...
        so, i dunno

        • Re: Spiritual Practice

          Fri, October 26, 2007 - 6:41 AM
          I would love to find a fun church to go to with Sam when he's older if he's interested in going. I'd love to find a fun church to go to for myself, for that matter! A UU church has always interested me, but there are none in my area. In the town where I live we only have one church and it's the fire and brimstone kind so not going there. Of course, I'd take Sam if he asked to go, but I'll also admit I'd keep my fingers crossed he didn't like it!

          As I go along on this mom journey I am starting to trust and have faith that what others here have said is true--all I can really do is model integrity and joyful living for my son and answer his questions, open the doors to him to explore many faiths and ways of believing. I guess mostly I hope to impart to him a sense that the universe is not just a big black void where we are twisting in the wind alone, but that there is a great flow of love out there and he can step into it every and any moment he chooses.

          In other words, of all things I hope he'll learn in life, I'm most interested in him learning hte art of being happy inside himself. It daunts me to hear that the way to help him learn this is to be so myself, it's a great challenge for me, but I am learning and becoming more joyful every day.
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            Sun, December 2, 2007 - 10:36 PM
            I would echo living with integrity and answering questions honestly, but I think there is more one can do....

            Story Telling...this has been a way of passing on culture and learning for ever...kids love stories and learn from then strongly, one we have that reflects our values is of a grandma cedar tree and her grandson, she protects him and takes care of him when he is young, and when she is old and he is strong he does the same for her. I also follow an earth based spiritual practice, we gather with our community to celebrate seasonal holidays. We try to have activities for the kids too, things that are fun.
            Through play...there is so much! Of course, my kids are still little, but I live in community and one of the most beautiful things is watching the youth not loose interest because they have the little ones to "teach".
            • Re: Spiritual Practice

              Mon, December 17, 2007 - 5:55 PM
              I second story telling! That's a big part of what I'm doing with my daughter to teach her about my beliefs. There is so much that can be taught through stories. There's a reason so many educational cartoons are based around stories with morals, or the serendipity books. It can be any kind of story, from religious (some of my favorites are) to mythological (which you may argue religious ones are), to folk tales and modern stories. It gives children an example of how things should be done.

              I'm also very fortunate in that I live in a military community with an open circle sponsored by a local Wiccan organization and recognized by the US Army. As a result, I've not only got a great support group for myself that understands the trials of deployments, separations, and all the difficulties of military life, but I've also got a group that I can use to show my daughter about what my beliefs are. My children are expected openly in ritual. The DFGL (Designated Faith Group Leader)/High Priest gives her a huge hug and almost seemed a little disappointed the one time she wasn't there because she was at a birthday party instead. One of the women there prints out coloring pages and comes up with activities for the kids to do when the adults are having classes, even though it's usually only my daughter on class nights. Last week they colored in a coloring book with pictures of all the seasons, talked about all the things that changed during the seasons, the significance in Wiccan spirituality, and in honor of Yule being right around the corner, they made snow men in clay because we won't have a white Christmas. The woman running it told stories about what happened back home when she was a little girl and all the things people do in the winter as part of her lesson in the spirituality of it. It was actually pretty cool! The adult's class was also on the wheel of th year, but not terribly as interesting. The idea behind the class is to give parents and their kids something to talk about on the drive home. The parents and the children have a connection that they wouldn't otherwise have and they both have a deeper understanding of what the other one was learning in a way geared better towards their own level of education.

              I think the best way to share your faith and spiritual belief with your children is to incorporate it into your daily life. Once my husband gets home and we can finally settle some of this chaos into order, I'm going to go back to doing yoga in the morning while he's at PT. Corde and I used to do a Baby and Me yoga thing together, her with her baby doll since she didn't have a baby, but Aris has gotten to active and doesn't have interest in playing along. Then when I'm done, I'll put her kids yoga on and do that with her, since I know she complains my yoga is too hard. She's asked about my altar several times, so I tell her about it. When we come home, we're going to be setting up an altr for her on her bureau. We talk about something having to do with my spiritual beliefs at least two or three times a week. We sing chants while we're driving on long car rides and she helps me sing one of the chants we use as a lullaby for the baby every night. It's become a part of life here. Granted, I'm not Wiccan. My beliefs are pretty much a mash-up of family traditions and things I've learned as I got older, so I can't exactly point her to a book when she's older, but it's a start.

              The best thing I can say is follow your heart. Rarely is there a better judge than that.